Leaving An Abusive Marriage: Should You Go Back?
So you finally had enough of the abuse. You had the strength to walk away. But you're now having second thoughts after leaving an abusive marriage. Are you thinking about going back because you feel stronger now to deal with the abusive relationship? Are you going back because this time, you know what to look out for so you can avoid it? Are you going back out of guilt; fear of being alone; fear that you may have given up too soon? Hasn't your abuser by his relentless pursuit of mistreating you already given up on you?
These are some of the questions to think about from a natural point of view after leaving an abusive marriage. But remember, you're a spirit with a soul who lives in a body. So also looking at things from the spiritual realm is extremely important.
Here are some spiritual questions you may want to ask yourself if you're seriously considering going back to an abuser:
1. "Will going back give me peace and joy in my soul?"
2. "Is going back to my abuser going to strengthen my relationship with my Heavenly Father?"
3. "Is returning to my abusive husband going to make me more equipped to walk in my purpose and use my anointing for the glory of God (Yah)?"
4. "Is going back to the marriage going to make us serve Yah more?"
5. "Will going back cause both of us to be a light to the world because we're striving to live a life of righteousness?" (Note: abuse isn't a lifestyle of righteousness).
6. "If I go back to a man who abused me, is it likely we will end up having a powerful testimony of how surrendering to the Holy Spirit is the only way to be healed and made whole?"
If your answer is a resounding "YES" to all of these questions, then by all means, go back to the marriage. But if at least one of your answers is "NO", then really stop and think if you're going back after leaving an abusive marriage because your spirit-man is prompting you to return or because your carnal nature is trying to rationalize why you should.
Remember, you can only encourage your husband to change, but you can't actually make him change. Your husband has to have a willing heart to change because it's the right thing to do, not because he wants to make you come back. Your abuser has to have a heart to change because he wants to be a better person, not because he wants to hold you hostage in a relationship. Your abusive husband has to surrender to Yah and allow the Holy Spirit to cleanse him from the inside out because he wants to live a life that's pleasing to the Father, not because he wants to please you just enough so you can come back to the marriage.
Woman of Yah, don't settle for a life of anything less than what the Father would want for you. Understand that you are the apple of the Father's eye; you're a princess in the Kingdom of Zion. You're worth much to the Father, so claim your worth today!
